Some Things I've Learned Along the Way

Insights can be really helpful, especially when we face challenges. When I seek advice from those I respect, I often have that forehead-slapping moment where I think, "I knew that!" or "Duh!". When that happens I write down what I just learned. Here's some of what I've come up with.

• Good enough usually is.
• When I want to feel good, I ask myself what I want. I'm the world's expert on Me.
• There's good news and there's bad news. Sometimes the hard part is figuring out which is which. Sometimes the same news is both.
• People tend to believe they know what other people are thinking.
• I can't possibly know what you're thinking. Mastering ESP is still on my To Do list.
• Whenever I make a mistake, I remind myself that I probably didn't invent that particular way to goof up.
• Nodding understandingly goes a long way, but only if you actually do understand.
• The nastiest thing about nasty problems is not that they don't go away when you refuse to deal with them. It's that they get worse.
• If you don't have a plan you can't follow it.
• Plan for today first. Planning for the distant future is worth less the more distant the future is.
• Kids know way more
  than they get credit
  for. Way more.Most people do their best. When it seems otherwise, maybe you just don't get it.
• Kids know way more than they get credit for. Way more.
• Deceiving others is difficult, especially if they're your kids.
• Dogs never ask you how you're doing because they already know.
• What fits for me might not fit for you. What fits for you might not fit for me.
• When someone speaks from the heart, listen to the beat.
• Experience eventually leads to wisdom. Some people require more experiences than others.
• That voice in your head that tells you you're messed up is usually coming from the part that's the most messed up.
• Feeling embarrassed is a waste. Most people are too busy worrying about themselves to notice.
• Speaking your own No is more powerful than repeating anybody else's Yes.
• If you don't like your choices, choose to look for more choices.
• Even though you know your favorite flavor of ice cream, try one of the others now and then.
• It's a lot easier to stay out of trouble than it is to get out of trouble.
• Attributing significance or intention to other people's mistakes is often a mistake.
• Lots of people have been through really terrible things that they don't talk about. It's safest to assume that everyone deserves your respect and admiration.
• You don't always get back what you give. But since we can't really measure that, feeling slighted might be unwise.
• A human being is a wonder. You are a human being.

I could go on, but maybe you're wondering what your own list would look like if you wrote it down. You can find out.  Next in this series  Top    Next Issue

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