
A Venn Diagram of three sets. When three people (or three groups) interpret a proposition, they can potentially arrive at three different interpretations. If the three interpretations differ, but the three parties don't realize that they differ, confusions can result when the proposition in question is a statement describing the scope of a project. For example, Person A might not know that Person B's interpretation implies something Person A cannot accept.
Solving problems does require solutions, but literally searching for solutions isn't necessarily an effective way to find them. The risk is that we might jump to solving the problem before we even make a start at defining the problem. Defining the problem, often called scoping, is the first step in solving it. [Atman, et al 2007]
But scoping a problem can expose intense differences of opinion about what the group is doing and why it's doing it. The unity of the group can be at risk. There are three general areas of conflict that can emerge. (a) Some feel that the proposed scope is too broad; (b) Some feel that the proposed scope is too narrow; and (c) Everyone agrees about the proposed scope, but the agreement is based on unrecognized ambiguity in the proposal. Ambiguity of the scope statement is especially troublesome because it often leads to scope creep.
In discussions of scope, one pattern participants frequently use involves checking whether the proposed scope statement includes or excludes various examples of potential changes to the problem statement at hand. Sometimes these checks are expressly stated. Sometimes they aren't expressed openly. Sometimes participants overlook examples they care about deeply. That's why the pattern of relying on participants to provide examples might not be reliable enough to ensure that the scope discussion uncovers all lurking issues.
Below are three patterns useful for increasing the effectiveness of group debates about problem scoping. In what follows, I use the term proposition to refer to a proposed statement describing the scope of the problem at hand.
- From Me to You
- "From-Me-to-You" is a solution-generating technique. To apply it to a binary debate, we would begin by asking the parties to abandon their own stances, and then adopt each other's stance. They then continue the debate as a mock debate. When the method works, the parties sincerely try to win the mock debate for their newly adopted stances. They then see value in the other party's stance, often for the first time. When they return to their own personal respective stances, they bring their new insights along. And that makes it easier for them to forge solutions that take account of their partner's concerns.
- For non-binary debates — n-ary debates — having each party assume the stances, in turn, of every other party would necessitate running many mock debates. For a three-party debate, we would have three mock debates; for a four-party debate, six mock debates, and so on. The precise number of mock debates is the number of combinations of n things taken two at a time: n!/2/(n-2)! = n * (n-1) / 2. Practicality limits what is possible, so focus the technique on the pairs of litigants that have the most trouble appreciating one another's goals and constraints.
- Wishing to Fearing
- Scoping a problem can expose intense
differences of opinion about what the
group is doing and why it's doing it - Opponents of the proposition sometimes accuse its advocates of "living in dreamland" or just, "dreaming." They occasionally add suggestions such as, "Call me when you come back to Planet Earth." In defense, advocates respond by asking the proposition's opponents, "Are you afraid of success?" Or, "If we want to be ahead of the pack, we have to take some risks." Advocates are accused of wishing; opponents are accused of fearfulness. Both accusations are usually unjustified.
- To express a wish is to describe a state more preferred than the state presented in the proposition, but currently unattainable or excluded by the proposition. However impractical wishes might be, wishes are valuable. They can sometimes show the way to what are often called out-of-the-box solutions.
- To express a preference for more caution — or less recklessness — is not to be fearful or timid. Rather, it is an expression of a healthy degree of caution. Implemented as a risk management program, caution is almost certainly essential for success of any proposition that could possibly elicit accusations of fearfulness.
- In group debates, the differences between two parties can sometimes be little more than differences between their respective wishes and fears.
- Complaining to Whining
- A contribution is a complaint if it expresses legitimate dissatisfaction with some aspect of the proposition or its consequences. To be a constructive complaint, it must avoid repetition and include a recommendation that might help alleviate the conditions that led to the complaint.
- To whine is also to express dissatisfaction, but the expression is less legitimate than the expression of a complaint. Whining might be repetitious, redundant, trivial, inaccurate, or overstated. Most important, whining omits any recommendation for addressing the issue.
- Complaints about processes tend to be of general value to many stakeholders of the process, especially stakeholders who interact with the process in the same way as the person complaining. In this way, the complainant is performing a service for a stakeholder class. Not so with whiners. A whiner is less interested in improving the experience of the process. Rather, whiners might be more concerned with their own personal experience, or with shaming the owners of the process. Those who register complaints seek real change that benefits many; those who whine seek to tarnish the images of a few.
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